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I'm wearing brown. It's too tight. You can see the tattoos on both shoulders, my head is BALD on my pate and that headband got further and further back on my head as the day went on and no one told me. Look at the rolls! Why didn't I wear a flowing dress? *sigh*

You can't see the pretty beading at the bottom of the dress, though. That I am proud of. The beading on the headband was really just busywork to keep my hands out of my daughter's business. I never should have worn it.

This is the best picture I could find. I was too ashamed to show you any of the others. Posted by Picasa

Reader Comments (9)

I have a hard time looking at my own wedding pictures. The bottom portion of one side of my skirt (it was a renaissance outfit) was tucked into the waist band the entire ceremony and no one felt compelled to tell me. I didn't even know until I got the pictures back. For this, I have none on display in my home.

You don't look bad at all.

November 4, 2006 | Unregistered Commenterladyelms

That's a lovely brown - and it looks like (from what one can see) that it's a good choice with your skin tone. And I've never met a headband that DIDN"T slowly, and sometimes not so slowly, slip back on my head. What the hey? Who are those damn things made for anyway?

If it's any consolation, I think my Mother-in-Law looked better than I did at my wedding...


So you know, I read your blog a lot. It's important to me. I know that's true of a lot of people who stop here.

Hooray for the straightening of the chakras and the slew of enquiries. Hooray you.

November 4, 2006 | Unregistered Commentercooler*doula

Wow - from what you'd written before, I was expecting the Mother-of-the-Bride of Frankenstein! I really and truly think you look great. The neckline of your dress is so graceful; it shows off your tattoos (how many MOBs have such great tattoos?); it looks like the line of the dress is very pretty on you; and best of all, you're wearing a flattering color and don't look like you're trying to upstage the bride.

Some friends of mine got married this summer, and the mother of the bride wore WHITE and carried a bouquet. For a minute, I actually thought she was a bride from another wedding who had stumbled into this one by mistake.

As for your hair, first of all, how many people would be staring at the back of your head? They'd be looking at your face (if they weren't looking at the bride and groom). And anybody who knows you, knows why you've lost your hair; and anybody who doesn't know you would just think you'd gone through chemo and cut you some slack! So do yourself the same favor, please, and be kind to yourself.

November 4, 2006 | Unregistered CommenterAnne

YOU ARE A BEAUTIFUL, STRONG, POWERFUL WOMAN. I don't know you, but I love you for you words, your vulnerability, and for the goodness and light you bring into this world. Thank you for being you!

November 4, 2006 | Unregistered CommenterAnonymous

Dang - that comment was a bit hamfisted of me. I meant - your blog is important to me, and so, in that weird Web way, you are too. And of course to many others who know you and who have been coming here far longer than I. And well. We don't mind how you looked in the dress. Which is not to say we think your feelings were silly.

Argh... How badly I'm doing here.

Please feel free to post none of this.


November 4, 2006 | Unregistered Commentercooler*doula

Damn, woman, look at all that hair!!!

And to think that only 5 months ago you were so irritated by how "shaggy" you'd gotten (not even 1/4 inch in length) you had to go get your head shaved.

November 6, 2006 | Unregistered CommenterNOLABarb

I can really relate to hating pictures of yourself. I've never even remotely resembled a beatiful person on the outside. And it's not a matter of, "Oh you don't belong to this century shapewise" or anything. Age and the family double chin aren't helping any. I was very lucky that my parents never valued looks much and I was the only girl - no pretty sister to compete with.

Those pictures of you are important whether you like them a lot or not. My mom was camera shy, and I would give anything for more pictures of her now that she has died. The important thing is the record that you were there, and you were supportive of your daughter and her groom. You are beloved, and even when you don't like the pictures people don't see what you see, they see beloved YOU, just as you are, just as they love you.

November 7, 2006 | Unregistered CommenterPsyche

Ah, the memories of being manhandled into a wedding dress by my mother....

I like your dress, and hers is just beautiful.

November 8, 2006 | Unregistered CommenterRebecca

Everyone has said it already, including your daughter.

You are just too hard on yourself.

We all love you...now love yourself, my dear. ;)


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