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Jun192006

It's a (VBAC) Girl!

Story to come, but many hours at home including several hours pushing (explanation later), moved to the hospital for epidural, forceps (no episiotomy and goodly first degree tear) and pushing from crown to birth (sort of) of a beautiful VBAC girl.

There are no words to tell you of the magnificence of this doctor. In my life, I can't imagine another doctor loving a client she just met more (my client changed care providers at 37 weeks). She came in even though she wasn't on-call. She didn't cut her even though her baby went from -2 to +4 to 0 to +1 to -2. She didn't cut her even when FHTs were down in the 70's inbetween contractions. (FHTs were 120's during pushing and when she was being pulled down!) She didn't cut her when she didn't just pop a baby out within seconds of the baby crowning. She didn't cut her because she could.

I'm going to get her a gift. She is one herself.

I'm going to let mom write her story before I put my version up here (she reads my blog) - I don't want to color my clients' stories with my own until they have had their say first. Know, though, that she is amazingly happy and incredulous at the lack of pain she's experiencing. She had a YEAR of pain after her cesarean. A YEAR. Many weeks on pain meds. This experience is the polar opposite of her last one.

I am so proud of her and so proud to have been a part of her story.

Reader Comments (4)

I've been feeling physically sick waiting for this post! Whew. Give me the address and I'll send a present too!
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June 19, 2006 | Unregistered Commentermm

MM - I am so sorry it took so long to get this posted. I was so exhausted, I could barely look at the computer before falling into bed the night of the birth.

When at home with assistants, when there is a transfer/transport to the hospital, the assistant remains and cleans the client's home so everyone comes home to a clean home and the midwife's gear is packed and ready to be taken home.

Here, we all left together and I came back alone so was the only one here to clean the home of the equipment, get laundry going and the bed ready for dad when he came to drop into it. I emptied and cleaned the bathtub, washed dishes and took my equipment and things out to the RV before crawling into bed to sleep for 10 hours.

I do apologize for the delay. I don't want you to feel yucky!

June 20, 2006 | Unregistered CommenterNavelgazing Midwife

Don't fret, that is a lot of work! I'm in a bit of a state these days! Worry seems to be my constant state... and I especially worry over the vbac mamas! Too much sympathy perhaps?
Get some more rest!

June 20, 2006 | Unregistered Commentermm

MM - I would call it "empathy" - not sympathy.

Your KNOWING what their walk is and your thoughts and energy towards them helps them succeed. While I would rather you not make yourself ill or cry over their journey, your empathy is kind and loving.

Sometimes it's important to remember how to separate someone else's walk with our own. Even my forced cesarean mama knows that her walk had to be the way it was for many reasons - including allowing me to tell the story of a woman being forced to have a cesarean through manipulation and violence. While we wish it were different, it wasn't. All we can do is choreograph it differently for next time - and we will. (She is trying to get pregnant now!)

Never lose compassion, but always protect your heart. You and your family needs it more than those you will probably never know.

June 21, 2006 | Unregistered CommenterNavelgazing Midwife

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