Right now, the beginnings of a hate-fest is occurring on Fat Vaginas. It's interesting to see how someone stumbles upon a piece and then spreads it throughout their sphere of influence. I originally wrote the piece as an informational/humorous article about myself and fat women's vaginas - helping care providers understand and know how to work within the heart and spirit of fat women. Up until now, the piece has been loved and welcomed by providers and fat women alike.
However, a fat woman wrote today and said she did not have a fat vagina and she was offended by what I had to say. She then sent the link on to someone who would be REALLY offended by what I wrote and she has now written... er, SCREAMED... and I am smiling, waiting for the avalanche of comments to flow into my emailbox.
Watch along with me, eh? (And I am not taking it personally, you will be proud to know.)
Another post that has an entire life of its own and has for awhile is Tokophobia - the Fear of Childbirth. I've promised the tokophobes I would write more on this and am still formulating thoughts - and then, yesterday, Kristina says in the comments section of Taking Things Personally:
"...wanted to say that my SIL had a deep fear of birth and was grossed out from it, having been traumatized by seeing an emerging baby head out of a hairy vulva on TV as a young child. She opted for ceserean, but not before I suggested that she watch a video and learn about what a surgical birth entails. With all the sucking, burning smells and the obvious carnage, it is certainly not a good alternative to "gross". Probably not the best method of help although I did it with the best of intentions of preparing her for the experience.I'd be interested on what you would have to say about how to deal with patients who have a true fear/gross-out factor in regards to childbirth?"
I encourage you all to read the comments in Tokophobia and begin a dialogue - listening... really listening to the women who bare their souls in my blog, bare their fears, their horrors... listen and then comment to them. Offer them your heart. What would you say if you let your heart lead first?