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Memorial Service Reading

My dad's memorial service is this afternoon... and while I can't be there physically, I will either be Skyped in or be able to listen on my son Tristan's open phone. Tristan is representing our family and will read the following at the service. Once at my dad's house after the service, Tristan will Skype me in so I can talk to my family and dad's friends. Isn't technology amazing?


I was told this story:

The crowd stood on shore, waving good-bye to the ship with the giant white sails. Sad wives and children stood long after the others departed, their eyes locked on the ever-smaller sails. Eventually, none of them could see any sign the ship had ever been there; even the ripples were long gone. A dock worker trying to clear the way said, "It's gone. You all can go home now." A wise grandmother pulled the crying mothers and children close and said, "The ship is not gone, it is merely over the horizon where we cannot see. As we lose sight of our loved ones, they begin to be seen across the ocean."

So, too, is it with my daddy. He isn't close enough for me to touch, but he isn't gone. Any person remembered lives on long after the body has disappeared. We would be so lucky to be as loved as my dad is and was. He made all of us laugh - and there is no greater gift any of us could have received.

Thank you all for being a part of my dad's life. You made it richer by your presence. He loved each of you so much!

When we play golf, watch golf or hear about golf, we can think fondly of my dad and know that when that ball is lost in the rough, it isn't gone... it's merely hidden from view.

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I have been a lurker here on your blog and enjoy it very much. I had to comment today. I lost my Dad when I was 16 and I cried for you and for me as I read your posts about your Dad.

I am sending you warm, gentle, healing thoughts.

October 27, 2008 | Unregistered CommenterAurora

Thank you so, so much.

My Aunt Carmen just called to tell me that when Tristan was reading the last sentence, my cousin Carmita's phone began ringing and ringing... and she had it on mute! She picked it up and it rang still... and there was no one there. The minister said, "Dick must have wanted to call!"

Today is the first day I feel Dad is on the other side... completely. I know that sounds all woo woo... but thought I'd share anyway.

God, I miss him.

October 27, 2008 | Registered CommenterNavelgazing Midwife


I'm sorry for the loss of your dad, and I'm sorry for being so belated in offering my sympathies. I lost my dad a couple years ago, and so I understand your pain.

My dad, too, loved golf. One of my favourite memories of him is when my mother bought him a new driver for his birthday. He talked to it all the way home, showed it around the house, and introduced it to its new buddies in the bag.

With any luck, our dads are playing golf together in the Summerland. I hope the many rich memories you have help to soothe the pain of your loss.

January 2, 2009 | Unregistered CommenterShylah

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