Monday
Jan122009
Beautiful Birth with Dr. Wonderful
Monday, January 12, 2009 at 08:53AM I attended a really beautiful birth this week. Mom said I could share these three pictures... and I am grateful for her kindness. I haven't asked her about sharing her story yet, so I'll hold off on that for now.
Until then, enjoy her bliss!
(She is in bed by choice, not by design.)
Dr. Wonderful on the left. Look how beautiful my client is!
Update on Saturday, August 18, 2012 at 10:26AM by
Navelgazing Midwife
Navelgazing Midwife
Please be sure to read the final Judgement by the Medical Board of California. I summarized it here in the Dr. Biter Judgement Posted.
Update on Saturday, August 18, 2012 at 10:26AM by
Navelgazing Midwife
Navelgazing Midwife
Please be sure to read the final Judgement by the Medical Board of California. I summarized it here in the Dr. Biter Judgement Posted.
Reader Comments (10)
YAY Dr. Wonderful! I can't wait for the story!
Thank you for the note about the comments... I have no idea how that happened! Thanks for the link, too. Cool gadget!
I spent a good chunk of my labor in bed too, though sitting up, not lying down. It was easier for my to handle and get through each contraction.
I also walked, leaned over the back of the bed, and spent some time in the tub, but sitting in the bed allowed me to concentrate the most.
Nauseating is right...Dr Wonderful??? please! He tried so hard to get under my skin and make it about him... He has such a rediculous need to be "loved"! my recommendation is , get a puppy or get therapy! he crosses the line by having a complete lack of professional boundaries. There is so much more I could say but it would take too long to cover all of my nauseating and horrible experiences with "Dr wonderful". He made MY birth and experience about HIM! Dr Wonderful's goal is purely self indulgant and self serving at any cost. Sure, praise him about how amazing he was to deliver my baby after 4 hrs of pushing only to end up with a 4th degree tear and perminent damage...Thanks Dr Wonderful , I think of you every time I am intimate with my husband and trust me, thoughts of you are NOT good.
That's too bad you have such negative feelings about Dr. Biter. After working in birth for 27 years, I am here to tell you that if you want a natural birth, he is the best person for the job. It's hard when your birth experience differs from your expectations and it sounds like you might have been happier with a more interventive doctor who sectioned you at the 2 hour pushing point. There are PLENTY of those docs, so odd that you chose the tender doctor; didn't you catch on to his informal style during prenatals?
Good luck healing... body and mind. It sounds like there's still lots of work to do.
Well he is an awesome doctor (when you get to see him) He has this other doctor thats helping him out with he's patients...that I didn't really like..but anyway I wish dr. biter was there for me like that lady in the picture, he came maybe for 15 minutes to 30 minutes I pushed maybe 4 times and poof! then he left!
"It's hard when your birth experience differs from your expectations and it sounds like you might have been happier with a more interventive doctor who sectioned you at the 2 hour pushing point. "
I just looked back on this comment because "Beautiful Birth with Dr Biter" was right across from a comment from your latest post about him. Your response is fascinating to me. A fourth degree tear and permanent damage is no one's expectation for a birth, and really, it should make you question the management of that labor. Barb, what would you have said if a woman wrote and said, "I was sectioned and the doctor cut my bladder and now I have permanent damage"? Said, well, it sounds like you would have been happier with a less interventive doctor? The point is not the intervention, but the mismanagement of the process. You had mentioned at other times that he is a big fan of perineal massage, for instance. We know what four hours of perineal massage might do, right? Make tears a lot more likely?
And you didn't even approach the issue of "the need to be loved". Did you think this was this all in the woman's head or something? Maybe she had a point. Maybe Dr Wonderful has some work to do.
First of all, I think *all* of us have some work to do.
As I write about this, I am not making excuses for him. I write what I know. Sure, I'd like to see him on the perineum less, but there are loads of midwives I could say that about, too.
And he does not do 4 hours of perineal massage; that's absurd.
See, writing about my own experiences still leaves room for interpretation, which isn't the worst thing of course, but when the words are twisted around, it irks me.
I'm still trying to figure out the way to address Dr. Amy and Antigonos, especially in light of a positive announcement that is coming this afternoon. They both bring up valid questions and I do want to write about them... probably in a more generic way, however.
Power in birth is a great topic.
I wasn't trying to twist your words. I know a lot of midwives who I wish could lay off the poor perineum a bit, too. And btw I'm not Dr Amy and if you think I am I will have to cry about that. And probably take an internet vacation. I'm really not trying to be nasty. I just put two and two together because I _have_ seen perineal massage done until the whole area was one big mass of edema. I don't know how this lady's 2nd stage was managed, and you don't know (unless it got announced today) why Dr. Biter had his privileges revoked. But this commenter DID have a negative experience with him and I don't think it's fair to tell her it's because she picked the wrong OB. It is possible to make mistakes even if you're usually Wonderful.
While I have attempted to remain silent during much of the drama and easily identified comments that were left by people or institutions posing as patients, I felt the need to address some lies. My patients rarely tear at all due to my use of olive oil and slow delivery. I have not had a four degree laceration since residency.