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Abuela Passed This Morning

Her only child was at her side, reading her loving letters written to her from around the world, translated into her native Spanish. With each letter, her breathing slowed and became more labored; she was not in pain.

After her son, my former husband, read the letters, he put the Classical Channel on Pandora and put headphones on her. As soon as the music was to her ears, her breathing eased, but continued to slow. I like to imagine she melted into the notes and melodies she loved so much, her breath becoming lighter and softer, eventually ceasing.

Her beautiful, wonderful, full heart continued beating, slower and slower, for another five minutes. Her son held her hand and talked her through the end of of her journey.

There is a saying: Be kind to the children for they are close to the other side. Today, it is a joyous day for those children on the other side, to have Abuela to sing them, play with them and to cook them their favorite dishes.

While the tears flow in our family, we are thanking the powers that be... God, the Universe, fate... that we had so much time with such an amazingly strong woman. She will always be an inspiration of strength and power in my mind and heart.

As I wept this morning, I did take a moment to think about what a broad range of experiences she had in her lifetime. Being born into a family with 16 children, living in a house without indoor plumbing for many years and then, as she died, listening to Pandora on the Internet on her son's Smart Phone. I just sat for a few minutes and marveled at it all.

Thank you to everyone who has cyberly kept vigil with us. Your thoughts and prayers were/are most welcome.

Her dear son Bolivar (Bo) created a memory page for his mama, Jacoba Lora , and we will fill the site with love and memories for all that knew her. Selfishly, I want the site to be a place where our kids can go to remember and continue loving the woman we all admired and loved... their Abuela.

Aimee holding Abuela's hands a couple of weeks ago. 

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Thank you for sharing with us. The end sounds so peaceful, may we all be so blessed to move on surrounded by such love and care and peace. Hugs and thoughts to you all.

November 27, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterStassja

Que en paz descanse.

My thoughts are with you and yours.

And thank you for your beautiful writing about her and about death.

November 28, 2010 | Unregistered Commenterchingona

So sorry for your loss, but thankful for the blessings she brought to all your lives.

November 28, 2010 | Unregistered Commenterdelma Moreno

En paz dezcanse abuela Jacoba, algun dia nos veremos otra vez cuando Dios nos llame para estar con El. Buenos recuerdos nos deja esta gran mujer, con un corazon muy grande, una persona inteligente, trabajadora y siempre con una sonrisa e su rostro. Aprendimos con ella en cada una de sus platicas. La recordaremos siempre. Nuestras condolencias a su familia de parte.

De Mona & Victor Lopez y familia

(Translation: Grandmother Jacoba rests in peace and one day we will see her again when God calls us to be with Him. We have wonderful memories of this great woman whose heart was huge, this intelligent person, a hard worker and someone who always had a smile upon her face. We learned so much from her whenever we spent time talking together. We will remember her always. Our condolences to all of her family.)

November 29, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterMONA VARGAS-LOPEZ

Oh, Mona! (Con permiso; mi espanol no es bien. Voy a escribir parte en Ingles... por favor, pregunta a Monica si no entiendo.)

Gracias para los sentimientos sobre Abuela. Ya me extrana y solamenta tres dias esta pasando. Que triste para el mundo que ella no esta. Pero Cielo la tiene y los angeles estan bien feliz con sus comidas y historias. Que suerten, los angelinos.

Thank you for loving Jacoba as I have. She definitely made a huge impact on my life. We will love her always.

Thank you for your kind words. They mean so very much.

November 29, 2010 | Registered CommenterNavelgazing Midwife

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