In the last three days, I've been called "hypocrite" twice. It's an epithet I'm pretty used to, actually, so at first it didn't click, but this afternoon, I laughed at what was really happening.
First, I was called a hypocrite by a follower of the SOB (ask someone else if you don't know who that is; she gets no air time here) who, in a comment I did not publish, said:
"How ironic that you deride the next step 'down' from home-birth midwifery (itself a 'step down' from birth in a full-fledged medical setting) as a "luxury" in the mindset of Western women when homebirth with a midwife in the Western world is motivated by the same ill-informed, privileged mindset."
"Shame on you. You are just as ignorant and dangerous as the UC'ers you look down on. But I guess it helps to rationalize your unscientific stance to have someone 'below' you on the industrialized world's substandard birth care 'food chain.'"
Okay, so that's the far right side of the spectrum. Now, let's look left and see what I got this morning. I did not edit.
"Frankly, it is very unfair to call UC dangerous until we have real scientific studies. Of course how do you study and underground movement? What sane woman will admitt to planning a UC beforehand when she knows it can bring such negativity and the threat of CPS?"
I'm writing this, debating arguing the point about "scientific studies" and how no one believes them anyway, so who gives a crap if one is ever done on UCs. And that puh-LENTy of women plan UCs ahead of time; wander the Net for 10 minutes and you can find a slew of them.
But then I thought, instead of arguing, I'll just quote some more.
"The statistics I have seen for India is that about 1/2 their total population is anemic. Do they have insane rates of post-partum hemorrhage? Yes. Is post-partum hemmorhage going to be as common in a woman in the US choosing UC who eats meat and follows the Brewer diet?"
Seriously? SERIOUSLY? Am I supposed to address this? Am I supposed to be the one to break it to this woman that anemia does not cause hemorrhage? That the Brewer Diet is bunk (I want to use a far worse word, but am trying to contain myself)? That her enormous ethnocentric ego is flapping about for all of us to see?
Sometimes, I think I could write for hours and hours trying to dispell myths, but it's almost as if no one hears, so, instead, here's more of her quote:
"We can not get facts about the true risks of UC until we allow it to happen unhindered. Allowing women to make their own choices, from scheduled 36 week c/s because they are too scared to be pregnant any longer to UC is the only way to empower women and show that we are as capable as men of making our own choices good or bad."
Isn't the very definition of UC, unhindered? I'm even turning my head sideways trying to figure that sentence out, but it makes zero sense.
Now, this empowerment issue. We've covered this before.
No one can empower another person.
WOMEN EMPOWER THEMSELVES.
"...show that we are as capable as men of making our own choices good or bad."
My head hurts already from trying to decipher the messages hidden inside this email, so I'm really at a loss for what to say about my proving I'm as capable as a man in making dangerous (stupid?) choices. Really? Really? Women still feel like they have to prove themselves? Women still compare themselves to men? Apparently, I missed the latest memo.
But, looking at these two readers' comments from afar, the gist of them both is I am a hypocrite, that I say one thing and do another. I say I'm for a woman's choice, but have serious concerns (understatement) about UCs. And I feel births are safer in the hospital in extreme emergencies, but I still support homebirth.
So, in talking to Sarah, telling her of the latest condemning emails, I couldn't help but laugh out loud that if I was being called hypocrite by the left and the right, I must be right smack in the middle!
I wonder if I'm doing something right after all.